Dating Conversation Topics (Tips For Dating)
Dating conversation topics are one of those things daters are most concerned about. The main worry is about how the topics of conversation will be received by the other party. For example
- “What if she thinks I’m boring?”
- “Will he really be interested in what I have to say”
- “I wonder if she’ll think that kind of stuff is beneath her”
- “What if he thinks I’m stupid”
Etc, etc
But you see deciding on which dating conversation topics to bring up needn’t cause you distress, all you really need to do is think about them logically.
If you work, it will be logical to talk about work, if you like music, it will be logical to talk about music, if you’ve travelled, it will be logical to talk about about travel, etc, etc.
Dating is about getting to know each other first and the best and only way to do that is by talking about the most relevant parts of your life, i.e. work, interests, hobbies, holidays, family and so on. From this” conversation topic base” if you like, new topics will grow naturally anyway, because conversations evolve of their own accord, you don’t necessarily have to engineer them. All you need is a starting point and the rest flows from there.
With that said, however, what makes any conversation much more interesting (even if it’s one about garden fertilizer), is how it’s delivered. So always try and include at least some of the following components;
- Passion
- Enthusiasm
- Emotive/evocative language
- Change in vocal tone and tempo
- Questions directed back at your date that will draw them in and get them to relate to what you are saying
And of course, the golden rule of dating conversation and in fact any conversation, is to talk about the other party FIRST and NOT you. You are not conducting a sales presentation, it’s a conversation. So give your date attention by asking them to talk about themselves first – your time will come.
Lastly and returning to the point of making your dating conversation topics logical, there are of course certain themes that you want to avoid mentioning at such an early stage. E.g;
- Unnecessary references to former partners
- Controversial topics, e.g. extreme political or religious views
- Past experiences that could potentially leave your date unimpressed
Ultimately, you’ll be the best judge of what you feel is ok or not ok to bring up at the time and not me, but all I’m saying is to avoid creating potential barriers to your dating progress when you needn’t.
Conversing in this way will pay positive dividends, I can assure you.
Good luck!
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Speed Dater
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