How To Flirt With A Girl – Part 1 (Tips For Dating)
Guys, once you discover how to flirt with a girl properly, your little black books are going to be BULGING with potential dates – I can assure you!
Now, there’s quite a lot in this section, so I’ve decided to break it down into separates blocks, with this being part 1.
Before we get into the techniques themselves, however, you just need to understand why flirting can go right as well as wrong.
You see, the body language and verbal language you need to use with girls is different than it is with men. Now that might sound obvious, but given so many guys don’t know how to flirt with a girl effectively, means it is really isn’t.
Because men and women are wired differently psychologically, your terminology and body language needs to be adjusted in order to achieve your desired effect.
Ok, so here’s what to do to get your flirting off to a rocketing start…
1. At point of introduction, you want to start off with a hello and a shake of the hand. For some reason, a lot of men still think that you don’t shake hands with a women. This is absolute garbage as physical contact with another is what properly initiates the bonding phase. So, firmly shake their hand (not too firm and vigorously of course) and avoid the lettuce leaf shake. Your handshake is intended to convey your character, so firm is confident and assured, limp can be interpreted in a number of ways including weakness and slimy-ness. Women like an assured man
2. When you are standing with your male friends, you probably notice that you rarely face each other head on, you tend to stand off at an angle. And the reason is to do with the avoidance of confrontation. With women, however, facing one another directly and keeping fairly long eye contact is their normal mode of behaviour. So as a guy, what you need to do is adjust your body so you face the girl head on and maintain a good degree of eye contact.
3. After you’ve made your introductions and the conversation is moving forward nicely, it’s time to introduce the tactile tactic. For some men, periodically touching the shoulder or arm of the person their talking to, is just a natural thing to do – it’s something that I find myself doing unconsciously very often and it’s a natural rapport-building action. Now, whilst this action builds rapport, when applied to the girl you like, it’s a great flirting action that moves things onto a slightly more intimate level.
When using this technique as a flirt technique, however, you can increase its effectiveness depending on where you touch the girl. The best parts to target are the knee (whilst sitting of course -could you imagine bending down to touch a knee whilst they were sill standing!), the inside of the forearm which is a sensitive area or a quick placing of your hand on theirs.
In all cases, you should try and make it a natural action – you’ll find that there are perfect times to use it, e.g. just after a laugh has broken out between the two of you, or if you’ve been misunderstood and you want to make it clear what you actually meant. Regarding the touch itself, keep it short and use a quick squeeze with a cupped hand on the part of the body in question.
Ok, now for part 2 of How To Flirt With A Girl.
Good luck!
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sharp you look, or how clever you are with conversation.
Send the RIGHT signals, and the women are going to feel an undeniable ATTRACTION towards you.
Here are some quick tips on how to flirt with a girl, that are based on human nature:
* When you engage a woman in conversation, be aware of how you angle your body. Men tend to talk to each other at angles to avoid confrontation. Women face each other head-on and maintain eye contact. You should engage them the same way.
* Handshakes are very important. Usually, this is your first opportunity at “keno” (establishing physical contact.) Our hands are filled with tactile nerves. If your handshake is loose and feels clammy, you’re signaling that you are anxious, and this will naturally elevate HER stress levels.
Give her hand a firm, but not bone-crushing, grasp. Pay attention to her grip also.
I’ve found that women who give firmer handshakes tend to be more adventurous. This must come from the fact that they’re more comfortable socially, and confident in themselves.
* As the conversation develops, use body contact to build the sense of connection and generate sparks. Subtly touch her knee as you tell a story. Put your hand on hers for a brief moment, as you both laugh at a joke.
(Her inner forearm is a GREAT spot to use a flirting touch, since this zone of her body is rich with nerves.) But don’t look at your hand as you touch her. Just do it, as if it’s a completely natural gesture.
* Women are attracted to deeper-voiced men. This suggests high testosterone levels, which is a sign of strength and reproductive ability. If you don’t have a naturally deep voice, lower your tone slightly when you engage her in conversation.
Speaking slower also helps when you are flirting with a girl. A deep voice, combined with eye contact, can have a hypnotic (and deeply attractive) effect.
Also, talk at the same pace she does. This enhances the sense that the two of your are connecting and bonding.
Watch an insecure guy flirt with girls, and he’ll almost always speak at a faster clip than she does. (This is very true with “funny guys,” who try to use constant jokes as substitute for real conversation.)
* Mirror her body language. Couples who are attracted to each other tend to subconsciously “mirror” each other. By mirroring her, you are again building the sense that you are connecting on a deeper level.
* DON’T fidget. This sends the message that you are nervous, and will trigger the release of stress chemicals in her brain. When you are calm and relaxed, you encourage her to go with your flow. You don’t need to use a lot of flirting body language. Just be relaxed and comfortable, and smile and maintain eye contact.
* When women sense that a bond is developing, her brain will release dopamine, a mood booster. Create this bond by getting her to talk about herself and her interests and passions, and indicate your interest with nods and short phrases
(“Oh my God, that’s so true.” “Hmm, that’s really interesting.” “Go on, tell me more.” “I completely agree.” “I feel the same way”).
(There are going to be times when you’ll want to tease her or “neg” her, to build sexual tension, and I explain how to do this CORRECTLY in the Mack Tactics program…but when she’s talking about things that matter to her, you always want to agree to demonstrate compatibility.)
* Next tip when you are flirting with girls: know that women are instinctively listening for signs of your social status and/or wealth.
Women are wired to go after men who can protect them and provide for a family. So while it’s important to demonstrate these capabilities, you should keep any references to your financial or personal success vague.
When you flirt with women it’s better to make her curious, and cultivate a sense of mystery around yourself. Instead of answering her directly when she asks what you do for a living, be vague. (“Let’s just say I’m very good at what I do, and to me it’s a passion, not a job.”)
With your social status, it’s also better to slip in vague references. (We all hate “name droppers.”) Send the message that you’re a popular, desirable person, but don’t be obvious about it.
When you flirt with girls, talking about your male buddies isn’t attractive or interesting. Instead, mention your FEMALE FRIENDS to demonstrate that you have a strong social network. (Every guy has male friends. Macks also have a network of cool, fun female friends.)
You can create quick stories when you flirt with women that are loaded with signs of social status, without ever sounding OBVIOUS, or like you’re “trying too hard.”
For example, tell her: “This morning was crazy. My friend Lisa was out of town on a modeling shoot and I was supposed to pick her up at the airport, but there was an accident on the freeway and the traffic was backed up for miles. Fortunately her plane got delayed so I got there on time.”
(The message: you’ve got a friend who is a female model.,
“Oh, so you like Indian food? I found the best Indian restaurant, I took my friend Jennifer there a few nights ago to celebrate her job promotion.”
(You’ve got a female friend who is ambitious and successful, and you generously took her to dinner.)
You get the idea. A quick “mention” of your female friends when you flirt with girls sends a powerful message to the woman you’re talking to: you’re popular among other females, which means you must have VALUE. If the girl you’re talking to is digging you, this is also going to stir up an instinctual feeling of jealousy… and a desire to WIN you away from the competition.
Remember, YOU are the prize. Now go out there and start acting like it!
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